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If You Don't Do Hookups Then Don't Hookup.
Here's a Reddit post we address on this week's Dateology Podcast. TL;DR: guy who had no intention of dating me misled me and...
Christan
Nov 16, 20202 min read
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Sex, Lies And Expectations
From Reddit: I’m 42 and divorced. I met this amazing guy on Bumble. We chatted for a bit and then met up for lunch on a Monday. We had...
Christan
Oct 11, 20204 min read
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Are You Single Because You're Shallow?
I have been on dating sites for years and, I find mostly the regular person with average interests and, I have had relationships with ...
Christan
Sep 27, 20204 min read
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Reasons Your Bumble Match Thinks You're A Creep
And - YES - this applies to men and women. I met a nice guy seemingly online. He is professional, smart, good looking. But he keeps...
Christan
Sep 23, 20203 min read
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Podcast - Smug Couples, Awkward Break-Ups & Answers For That "Why Are You Single?" Question
A reader asks what she should do about being uninvited to events because she's single. Sarah and I also parse an essay by a man weirdly...
Christan
Sep 20, 20201 min read
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Podcast - Dating Leagues, Tinder Narcissists & Friends With Benefits
This one's about figuring out your dating league and when to shoot out of it. We also talk about the dangers of dating a narcissist....
Christan
Sep 13, 20201 min read
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Dateology Podcast - Sexting, Marathon Dates & Red Flags Never To Ignore
We're talking why women settle for casual sex, the dangers of marathon dates and red flags we often ignore. Sexting after marathon date...
Christan
Aug 27, 20201 min read
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Why Do So Many Women Settle For Friends With Benefits?
Here's an interesting Reddit post I thought would make for a good discussion. I read this subreddit regularly and a large percent of the...
Christan
Aug 24, 20205 min read
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The #1 Sign They're Just Looking For Sex
In my dating profile I say I'm looking for a long-term relationship but I still get emails from guys only looking to hook-up. How do I...
Christan
Aug 11, 20203 min read
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Awkward First Dates, Aging & Dating Younger Men
Why do people have to ruin a perfectly good Zoom date by being creepy? Get tips on how to navigate those awkward on and offline date...
Christan
Aug 6, 20201 min read
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Let's Talk Awkward Zoom Dates
Question: Matched with a guy on Hinge. We set up a time to chat on Zoom. Not five minutes after he shows up than he starts to get...
Christan
Aug 2, 20204 min read
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Dateology - Safe Sex In 2020
Safe sex takes on a whole new meaning in 2020. Is there any point to dating during the pandemic? What about sex? Should singles fly solo...
Christan
Jul 30, 20201 min read
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Sex And The City: COVID Edition
Hi Christan, You may remember me from a few months back. I was on one of your dating profile workshops and then participated on a...
Christan
Jul 27, 20205 min read
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How Do You Find A Relationship If You've Never Had One?
I'm at the risk of becoming a 40-Year Old Virgin in a few years. My dating history is non-existant, and even in date settings I have...
Christan
Jul 22, 20204 min read
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The Other Woman Isn't To Blame Because Your Man Sucks
Medium continues to serve up essays reeking of internalized misogyny with this latest pile of word vomit. Who is the Other Woman? I have...
Christan
Jun 9, 20206 min read
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How Do You Date When You Don't Know What You Want?
I met a guy through online speed dating and we were a match. He emailed me and asked if we could speak on the phone. During our...
Christan
May 22, 20203 min read
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The Uncomfortable Truth Many Singles Don't Want To Hear
Ok Cupid says I have over 700 likes. Yet, none seem to have a paid membership where they can send me a message. They do send me profiles...
Christan
May 14, 20204 min read
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Are Dating Apps Full of Men Just Looking For Sex?
Hi, prior to the virus pandemic I explored online dating without success. I have encountered that the quality of men on these sites is...
Christan
Apr 12, 20203 min read
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Podcast - Men With Madonna/Dinner Whore Complex
Ugh. First up, we talk about how one vindictive man tried to ruin the life of a female professor by falsely accusing her of sexual...
Christan
Mar 21, 20201 min read
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Why Do Women Sleep With Other Men But Not Him?
Kevin asks: I have met 40-year-old women who are tentative about kissing after dinner or drinks at my place on the second or third (!)...
Christan
Mar 17, 20203 min read
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